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Seeking Dana Smith by Barbara L. Steinberg

This letter was originally published on February 26, 2010. My hopes for 2012, other then the usual: health, happiness, and world peace....would be an answer to this letter. Of course, I have passed another birthday and have rounded the corner towards 56. Maybe this will be the magic year.

Dear Mrs. Smith –

May I call you Dana? Now that I am nearly 56 years old it seems appropriate. I don’t know if you will remember me…though I believe you will. You were my English teacher (freshman and senior years [1970-1971 & 1973-1974]) at W. T. Woodson High School.  This is not the first letter I have written you.  I wrote to you after I graduated from high school and thanked you for coming into my life!  Here I am again.

You and I bumped heads that first year, 1970.  Diagramming sentences and all those English technicalities drove me crazy; I was so bored.  You may have suffered some of the same boredom. 

D. Smith My senior year (1973-1974) with you included media/marketing and writing courses.  What an eye-opener for me!  Those experiences would eventually figure into my professional life in so many ways.  In my senior yearbook you wrote, “I expect to be buying your books soon,” Good Luck, D. Smith.  That was the most powerful and memorable thing anyone had ever said to me.

After graduating, I told you all of this in a letter. After moving to California, I stopped by to say ‘hello’ and let you know what was going on in my life.  You told me that you and your husband (whom I never met) were moving to Kentucky.  I believe you said he was a photographer and planned to open a studio.  Again, this is what I think was said.  I don’t remember if you said where in Kentucky or (specifically) when you were going.

I don’t recall if we spoke again, but I have thought of you often.

I have been looking for you for a long time.  I stopped by and called WTW – the English department, the principal – no one responded.  I contacted the teachers association.  Each time I explained, but no one seemed interested.  I have looked online. Searched through www.WhitePages.com, Google searches, and people-finder websites. Someone from my graduating class knows someone who is currently on staff in the English Department. They were going to do some asking on my behalf, but then I never heard anything more.

I posted the following on Facebook believing that this ‘six degrees of separation’ Mecca would find someone out there who recognized you. Or maybe even find you!

Barbara Barbara Steinberg I am still hoping to find Dana Smith who taught English at W.T. Woodson back in the '70s. She was still in Fairfax the last time I saw her but she said planning to move to Kentucky. Her husband was a photographer (I think this is what I remember).  December 13, 2009 at 8:38pm


Why is it so important that I find you?  Because I want to thank you…again!  Thank you for seeing something in me when I was only 17-years-old. Something no one else had noticed or nurtured. My life took many paths; all of them leading to my life as a writer and editor. Though I have been writing my whole life, I wasn't professionally published until my mid 30s. For 16 years I was the director of publications for California Tourism. Since 2006, I have been a freelance travel writer and marketing California as a travel destination.

I have often talked about what you taught me about the power of marketing. And, ironically, one of the first places I visited in California was the Hearst Castle…all because you had us watch "Citizen Kane" our senior year in a media class you taught. That’s true!  And from time-to-time, I take out my yearbook just to re-read your message. There are a couple of books I want to write, but finding the time is a major stumbling block. Your words of support may bring that to fruition someday. 

I hope this letter reaches you!  I want you to know that after 38 years I still remember and thank you from the bottom of my heart. In the meantime, others will know about the power of few well-placed words. Years later I still remember.


Love -Barbara

PS – Just before my senior year I visited a friend in the UK. Her mother, Joan, was a travel writer. When she explained this concept to me I said, “That’s a job?! I want that job.” I was just 17 years old and was just getting ready to begin my senior year in your class. The Universe, and D. Smith, saw the writing on the wall.   

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Father's Day Memory

Missing My Dads this Father's Day by Barbara L. Steinberg

I know I am not the only daughter or child missing a Dad today. While I appreciate whoever (Hallmark) invented these holidays -- Mothers. Fathers, Grandparents -- those of us without are reminded of just that. And while I am glad to be reminded, I do miss my parents especially on these occasions.

So I was very glad to have stumbled upon the photo yesterday...the day before Father's Day 2010. I remember this day so well....my father-in-law (l) and my Dad (r) enjoying a reflective moment at Lotus Valley Nursery near Coloma, California. This was many years ago. And my Dads (sadly) are no longer with me. But their memories live on...through this photo...and this post.

A Dad Memory - Happy Father's Day Credit Barbara L Steinberg

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Facebook the ultimate social network

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The following article was originally published in the Sacramento News & Review, January 21, 2010. This episode in my life still has me wondering. There are still no answers. Dale would probably tell me to stop asking questions.

Connection with Dale

An encounter on Facebook made one writer look at social networking in a new light

By Barbara L Steinberg More stories by this author...

The word of the day is reconnected.

“I just reconnected with so-and-so!” It’s the latest thing, thanks to the magic of Facebook and the great pastime called “social networking.” Honestly, I never understood the phenomenon, or the fascination with spending hours and hours recounting pointless bits of information. Was this really reconnecting?

But a recent Facebook encounter has me looking at social networking in a whole new light. It also has me asking some big questions of the universe.

Recently I decided to attempt a modern-day, Facebook reconnect with a friend from the past named Dale H. The two of us met in 1986, dated briefly and then went our separate ways.

Thursday, December 3: Just a few keystrokes and poof! Simple! I located Dale on Facebook and sent him a message.

Friday, December 4: Dale responded. He was happy to hear from me and provided a phone number. We made voice contact. He was living in Los Angeles but spending time in Sacramento caring for his elderly parents.

Saturday, December 5: We are supposed to get together, but missed the opportunity. He had things going on.

Sunday, December 6: We spoke again and say we’ll hook up sometime in the next week or two. Maybe breakfast at the Fox & Goose where we met 23 years ago?

Wednesday, December 9: My cell phone rang. “This is Barbara,” I said.

A woman’s voice asks, “Do you know Dale H.?” I said yes.

“This is his daughter,” the voice told me. “I wanted to let you know my dad died this morning.”

Needless to say, I was stunned. Dale was a young man, just 51 years old.

I was left to wonder, “Why? Why now? Why Facebook?” Was this another case of “Be careful what you wish for”? Or was there some other ultimate social-networking lesson to be learned?

Esoterically, a friend told me, “Somehow, he reached out to you to find him.” And I liked that explanation and that idea that, somehow, the phenomenon of social networking brought us back together, even if just for a moment. His family didn’t know who to call and found my number on his cell phone. I had a few people I could reach to let them know what had happened to Dale—some, strangely enough, through his Facebook account.

I have told this story of my ultimate social-networking experience repeatedly to family, friends and strangers. Thanks to Dale, I now say to everyone: If there’s someone out there you’re missing … someone you have wanted to find—reach out and reconnect. Don’t wait!

                Here's the rest of the Facebook story....

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California Dept of Fish & Game, CAPS Mourn Loss of Colleagues

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The California Department of Fish and Game (DFG) and California Association of Professional Scientists (CAPS) remembers and honors their fallen colleagues. 

DFG Bio January 5, 2010, Clu Cotter, DFG Associate Biologist, 48 years old, Kevin O'Connor, DFG Senior Biologist Supervisor, 40 years old, and Tom Stolberg, DFG Scientific Aide, 31 years old, all of Fresno, lost their lives in a helicopter crash. Helicopter pilot Dennis (Mike) Donovan of Landells Aviation, also lost his life. They were on a routine aerial deer survey when the crash occurred in a remote section of Madera County. An investigation is under way into the cause of the crash.

Governor Schwarzenegger announced that State Capitol flags will be flown at half staff. DFG Director John McCamman also ordered flags to be flown at half staff across the state at all DFG buildings in honor of the fallen scientists.

McCamman immediately instituted critical incident counseling teams to work with DFG staff to help them deal with the loss of their coworkers. DFG is also working with the victims’ families to offer support.

“Fish and Game employees are very much like a big family and this is a tremendous loss to our team,” said Director McCamman. “We will continue to do everything we can to help the victims’ families and our employees during this difficult time.”

DFG annually conducts helicopter surveys to track trends in California deer populations. Surveys are conducted from the air because of cost-effectiveness compared to ground surveys, access to remote
locations and to reduce bias compared to road-based observation. DFG has grounded all helicopter surveys and captures until further notice.

CAPS has established a memorial fund for the three biologists and helicopter pilot killed in the crash in Madera County.  CAPS welcomes donations to this account which will benefit the families of Department of Fish & Game employees Clu Cotter, Kevin O'Connor, and Tom Stolberg, and helicopter pilot Dennis Donovan.

"State scientists are a very tight-knit group," said CAPS President Patty Velez, a state Environmental Scientist at the Department of Fish & Game's Monterey office. "We want to make sure we do everything we can to help the families during this time of tragedy."
 
CAPS is soliciting contributions from the general public and from its own members.  CAPS appreciates the assistance and cooperation provided by the Department of Fish and Game for this effort.
 
CAPS is also working to ensure that its member's beneficiaries receive the benefit of every insurance and related program to which they are entitled.  This includes a special provision in the CAPS Memorandum of Understanding, Section 5.11, which provides a $50,000 air travel benefit to DFG scientists killed while flying during the course of their work.  CAPS negotiated this provision years ago in part due to a DFG helicopter crash which proved fatal to two biologists in 1992.
 
Checks made out to the "State Biologists' Memorial Fund" can be sent to:
 
State Biologists' Memorial Fund
c/o CAPS
455 Capitol Mall, Suite 500
Sacramento, CA 95814
 
Unfortunately, contributions are not tax deductible.
 

Thanks for your support!!

Memorial services have been arranged for  Clu Cotter, Kevin Connor and Tom Stolberg.  They will be held Thursday, January 14, 2010, at 1 PM at the Northside Christian Church.

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California Staycations! Please, I Invented It. by Barbara L. Steinberg©

No One Ever Believes Me! by Barbara L. Steinberg©  

Really, I'm not kidding. Ask anyone who knows me. But I didn't need some new-fangled word to describe a close-to-home getaway. I would simply say, "Get...a...way!" It doesn't have to be far for you to relax, repose, rejuvenate. Trust me.

Fireworks in Old Sacramento Waterfront Credit Barbara SteinbergI don't know who coined the word "staycation" but it's the word of the day. And I for one refuse to use it. But it suddenly occurred to me that, yes, in fact I invented the concept -- or at least had been talking about it openly for years. Janet Fullwood, Travel Editor, Sacramento Bee, recently wrote a great article about getaways (oops, staycations) which might include heading to a local B&B. In fact, years ago I took my husband on an overnight escape to that very B&B -- less than two miles from our home. We walked to dinner, enjoyed a fireworks display in Old Sacramento, and strolled "home" to our B&B retreat. The next day we enjoyed a lovely breakfast, explored the park across the street (one I had never visited) and then departed for our own Midtown abode.

It was just one night. However, it was wonderfully refreshing and really felt like an adventure. Friends thought it a bit odd...why would you pay all that money to spend the night in (basically) your own neighborhood? Of course, now that some clever person has invented hip and PC "staycations" no one would think twice or even ask. And our close-to-home retreat was nothing new; we frequently enjoy this kind of vacation. There are so many great places and sometimes just passing by doesn't quite cut it.

And my getaways were always called "fuel-friendly" -- long before gas prices crested the $2.00 mark. Here are some examples of great getaways:

Sacramento, California: Getaways Don't Have To Be Far

California Delta: Shhh! Isleton is Sleeping

Coloma, California: Mother Lode River Center Energy-Friendly Getaway

Placer County, California A Nearby Escape From Sacramento 

Suisun Valley, California Undiscovered & 50 Miles Away

Barbara L. Steinberg© 

 

P.S. Janet - Great minds think alike!

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